Hi !

Here is an attempt at penning something for one more Father’s day. One of the best things that happened to me was to become a father. Even better, father to a nice happy kid which was a breeze. Each phase of ‘bringing up’ meant less to do!

So no doubt that parenting was fun and far less difficult than what people imagine. That is sometimes a problem. We tend to forget the role of luck in our life. Or God’ s blessings, if you may. When we get things easy, we tend to assume we ‘deserve’ it. Maybe we do, but it is always nice to be grateful for what we have. Just enumerate the things that we have, and you know for what we need to be grateful.

As human beings we tend to assume that we DESERVE all that we have and yearn for more. I am more than happy with your academic performance – but can still nit pick on how you study or how you are wasting time on the phone. Amazing, but that is how human mind works. You have many wonderful qualities and talents — please forgive me if it seems I overlook these to constantly remind of weaknesses. I give thanks every day for a lovely daughter and have lots of hope for many happy times together in the few remaining years we’ll be living together. Let’s make the most of them!

One of my regrets in life is I never attempted writing poetry. Many of these thoughts would have been far easier for a poet to pen than for a strait jacketed finance teacher! The most difficult part of being a parent is there is no great feedback mechanism – or it is not a very formal one. One just goes on stumbling in life..and finds that the path was not so bad after all. Somwhere the friend needs to draw the lines – thus making parenting a little more difficult than being a friend. There is absolutely no way how I want to say “see I told you” after things have gone wrong. I would treat it as my failure – of not being able to tell you how it should be FAR before the event happening! that is important, not saying “i told you so”. You are now getting into the adult world, and that is going to be difficult. For my gen Social media came late, but your gen grew up with that. More people will want to be friends, and far more will judge you. You need to handle all that yourself. I know you will take care of your physical, financial and mental health. Remember you need a professional who can help you. There is no harm in seeking help. Do not try to do everything yourself. Don’t let people far inferior to you, who don’t know you, judge you. Seriously they do not matter. If you get into trouble come to me. I promise I will help you far far before I judge you. Difficult to say I will not judge you, but I am sure I will make an effort.

In about 3-4 years time you would be completely on your own. Perhaps in a different georgraphy. Perhaps 150 km away or 1500 km away or even more…but you will always be in my heart of course.

God bless.