You and your child…
From the famous Tamilian with a white beard…remember him? Remember Thirukural? I also heard that this is NOT from the Thirukural…I am not sure..but it reads well…so please read..and enjoy..we will worry later on about where it is from…..
I should have put this up on Children’s Day…but here it is. It is actually for parents. It is about introspection. Sit with your spouse…and read it.
It should take you 15 minutes to read, and about 15 hours to reflect:
Tirukkural by Tiruvalluvar ( a Tamil poet/writer) was written more than 2000 yrs ago. It’s one of th e ancient science on Human behaviour , which has not changed in-spite of modern education & technology ! .
SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS OF THIRUKKURAL
1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.
2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.
3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.
4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.
5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.
6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
7. If your child does not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.
8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour.
9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it.
10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
11. If your child is openly defied, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.
12. If your child is secretive, it is because they don’t trust that you won’t blow things out of proportion.
13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behaviour.
14. If your child doesn’t listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to make decisions.
15. If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right
PLEASE FWD THIS to ALL, IT MAY GUIDE OUR MODERN PARENTS,
Babu
Dear Sir,
Golden Advice. We should remember it life long and practice it.
Bharath
Thanks Subra, Please keep it this way … I will try to correct myself ..Also post more on these Child raising topics, will help all of people who are in 30’s ..
vatsa
@subra:
can you please tell which adhigaram(s) these are from ?
@bharath :
don’t try to be a perfect parent desperately trying to raise perfect children
Amit Nugyal
Some golden piece of advise but we do tend to normally overlook these while parenting.
Nazir
Wow, This looks applicable for elders/retires too who often assumed to behave like a child.